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Bridesmaid Duties on the Day
Unless you’ve been a bridesmaid before, you’ll probably be wondering what you need to do on the wedding day.
Whilst every wedding is different, the following points should give you an idea as to what to expect. Typical bridesmaid duties on the day might include:
- Arrive at the bride’s home (or venue) where the bride is getting ready. The bridesmaids should get themselves ready and help any younger bridesmaids or flower girls whilst the bride has her hair and make-up done.
- Check that the bridal bouquet and bridesmaids’ posies have arrived and chase up if required.
- A glass of champagne really is a must whilst you get dressed and look forward to the day ahead!
- Ensure you are ready in plenty of time – and definitely on schedule (if not earlier). You need to be ready to help the bride get ready and into her dress - so there can’t be any delays. (The chief bridesmaid is responsible for checking that everyone keeps to schedule).
- Bridesmaids usually travel to the venue with the mother of the bride - arriving at the venue approx 5-10 minutes before the bride. This gives the bride some ‘alone time’ with her father.
- The official photographer might want to take a few photos as you arrive.
- Before the bride walks down the aisle, arrange the bride’s dress and train and check that the veil is secure. This is usually done by the chief bridesmaid.
- The chief bridesmaid should help the bridesmaids’ line up in the appropriate order. Depending on the choice of the bride and groom, they will either walk in before or after the bride. It is usual for the chief bridesmaid to lead the rest of the bridesmaids.
- As the bride reaches the front of the venue, the chief bridesmaid will take her bouquet before taking her seat at the front on the left hand side (usually next to the mother and father of the bride).
- If required, you may be asked to act as a witness and sign the register. (The bride should tell you in advance if this is the case). Usually, the parents of the bride and groom will act as witnesses to the marriage.
- After the ceremony, the bridesmaids usually follow the bride and groom out of the church. The best man then follows, escorting the chief bridesmaid on his left arm.
- If required, the wedding party will form a line to greet the guests - either as they leave the ceremony or as they are seated for the wedding breakfast. See receiving lines for more information.
- Official photographs are usually taken straight after the ceremony, so bridesmaids should stand nearby until they are called.
- If the wedding reception is at a different venue, the bridesmaids will usually travel with the best man.
- After the photos, take the bride’s bouquet and place it in a safe place - ideally on display. A good place is by the wedding cake or on the gift table.
- As the bride prepares to be seated for the wedding breakfast, the chief bridesmaid should be on hand to help her with her dress (taking her veil if required). The chief bridesmaid might also be seated with the rest of the family on the top table.
- After the first dance, it is traditional for the chief bridesmaid to join the bride and groom on the dance floor and dance with best man.
- When the wedding cake has been cut, the bridesmaids can help distribute the cake to guests to make sure that everyone has a piece!
- Throughout the day, you should be on hand to help the bride with her dress – whether she needs to adjust it, take the train in or go to the toilet! (What are friends for?). You may also need to help her change into another outfit during or at the end of the evening.
- The bridesmaids may also be required to look after the wedding dress and any accessories - ensuring they are returned home safely.